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Need some dust to get to my happy side of the st. - 8/20/2008 9:29:23 PM   
Snowwhite


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I really need some dust to help me skip down my side of the happy street. Seems I've hit a huge pothole!

Something happened yesterday that had me cut my relationship with my mother. Until she gets the help she needs my kids and I will have NO contact. I've seen a side of her that I never knew about- I'm in total shock. Thank God Erin and the kids have been there for me. My father told me - after seeing Erin take care of you, I knew my daughter was being well taken care of.

Long story- but a short version is... in the past someone said to me - are you sure your father is your father? Well, at the time I totally blew that off. Since then I've heard my mother - well, didn't always play faithful mommy and wife. Which brought up a red flag for me. So I told my father about what I had heard years ago. He was truly surprised - and said that thought had NEVER crossed his mind- later on he called me back and said that- he gave it a lot of thought, and ya know, maybe you have a point? My entire family has black hair and I was born a toe head. Well, ok.... but then I found out 'one of her boyfriends' had blond hair.
So my dad told me - let's talk to your mom and see what she says.
Her reaction was NOT what I was expecting. She got mad at ME- yelled at me and told me to go get a DNA test! How could I hurt her like that! NEVER saying or explaining.. ya know, I know exactly who your father is - I'm 100% positive- just yelled at me and said YOU go get a DNA test.
She turned my brother against me yesterday and he wrote me an email telling me I was as stupid as they come, that he hopes I get a DNA test and it comes back showing he's not my father so it could explain why I'm so stupid. He went on....
I couldn't even breath when I read that. I called my mom who tells me- oh well, how do you like getting a bad email?
I honestly was so in shock, that I totally lost it.
My father and Erin told me if and when the time comes I want a DNA test- they would pay for it... no questions asked.
My aunt JUST went through this and found out my grandfather was NOT her father....
I honestly don't think my dad is not my dad- if I didn't have a lot of him in me {for example, I have his goofy toes... we have the same exact toes!} but still---

Believe it or not that is only a small part of what is going on with my mother- but the relationship at this point is done... until she can get help - there is NO more.

Sorry to dump all of this------

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RE: Need some dust to get to my happy side of the st. - 8/21/2008 8:40:02 AM   
Delta Dawn


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 Snowy   I think you and your Dad both know that he is your Father and that is all that counts.  I'm sending you PD to help you on this journey and hope that all turns out well.

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RE: Need some dust to get to my happy side of the st. - 8/21/2008 4:54:49 PM   
DVC4us


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Snowy hope this helps
my late mil was always trying to  throwing mud on our sunshine,just because she couldn't stand to have us happy.
 
 

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RE: Need some dust to get to my happy side of the st. - 8/22/2008 12:32:07 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Delta Dawn

 Snowy   I think you and your Dad both know that he is your Father and that is all that counts.  I'm sending you PD to help you on this journey and hope that all turns out well.

ditto

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RE: Need some dust to get to my happy side of the st. - 8/23/2008 3:21:47 AM   
EmpressKimmyKayofFae


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So sorry you are going through this,  Snowy!  

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RE: Need some dust to get to my happy side of the st. - 8/23/2008 8:42:13 AM   
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Sorry to hear this Snowy. All I can say is, "Let go and let God!" Not much comfort I'm sure...but....embrace those you love that love you too!
 
If this is any comfort....I don't know my "biological" father either! My dad came into my life when I was 3 years old and that is all I need to know! Your dad must be quite a guy to have forgiven your mom and stuck through it all! That's a whole lotta love for his children I'd say! And, you don't get that by being a "donor" if you get my drift!
 
Tonya
 
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